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for those allergic to the internet

22 Wednesday Apr 2009

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Internet, Thoughts

My husband never fails to remind me that I am severely allergic to the Internet. The world wide web has ensnared me and trapped me in its webby talons, and then made me ineffectual. Okay nothing that dramatic has happened. My husband, the tech-trigger-happy person, however, insists that I emanate some electro-magnetic power that repels anything electronic. So gadgets simply fail to work around me – those smart brilliant gadgets that would perform those dooper cool processes, simply die around me. And the super hot Internet that has changed everyones (incl. my own) life, simply fails to work, or really really slows down when I happen to surf by. It’s like I’m the equivalent of the plague for anything electronic. Of course, when this techie husband of mine picks up the laptop in an attempt to quiet the wails that emanate from my soul at failed technology, he merely needs to tap and pat and stroke the damn machine and it responds just fine. It’s not like I don’t love it like he does, but damn it, isn’t it just a friggin’ machine? I guess that last statement just damned me into technology hell, or the equivalent – which is no Internet, ever. You may never read any more blogs written by me. If they are written, it’s gotta be an imposter….

when does editing stop and writing begin (or vice versa)?

22 Wednesday Apr 2009

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what’s in an apostrophe i say? i mean does it really matter at the end of the day if it is its or it’s? It really is an indelible itch to fix these apostrophes, coz they simply seem like such a small big thing! they change the meaning from personable to impersonable, and it seems like the error is glaring at you when you read it – doesn’t everyone notice it?

at that stage you really wonder at what stage you stop being a writer (allowed to make such incongruous mistakes) and become an editor (shrivelling up with the anxiety of a missing ‘strophe). and does being a better editor make you an equally better writer? OR doesn’t being a better writer, make you a better editor?

Unfortunately, I believe none of the above have anything to do with the other. An editor is probably waiting for a story to tell – and after having read so much crap stuff and good stuff by others, is simply too jaded and self-critical to actually write… and a writer is simply so ponderously self-obssessed with a story or the finer nuances, that the judicious clarity to edit – to step away from the work, and actually see it as it is, is quite matter-of-factly, lost. I mean, of course that it s a huge generalisation but that is how it seems to fit just right. Writers write and editors edit. Writers suffer editor’s block and editors suffer writer’s block.

They say a book or film is as good as its editor. An editor works quietly (or not so quietly – I suppose they must be given to temperamental fits) behind the scenes to make the final product what it is – to make it or break it. I guess that’s why so many writers thank their editors in the acknowledgements, and so many directors simply forget to thank their editors in their trophy acceptance speeches! Since there are awards for ‘best editing’ in movies – why isn’t there an award for best book editor? Not that I want one of course, I’m waiting to write that book.

to vote or not to vote – for whom?

08 Wednesday Apr 2009

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India, Thoughts, Voting

when the system is rotten from the core, what can an average man do besides take to the streets and picket? Post 26/11 there have been a surge of interest groups, trying to make a difference. Now the time has come – to make a choice. Do we want to vote for criminals and ineffectual people and leaders or for those who have left bright careers to make a difference? Whether the person wins or not, it is our choice to stand by them.

every election time we complain about not having a choice to vote for a good candidate. we complain that we only have to choose from the better for two evils. we complain that there are no smart, young, dynamic, and most importantly – honest people who want to change things. well now there may be – and we have a choice.

this voting long weekend – one must not take off to our local version of the hamptons. or even if we do, we should vote and then leave. and vote for the best person, even if he/she is an independent. It can take one voice to start a revolution.

check out: http://www.meerahsanyal.in/ – for someone who wants to make a difference.

infectious emotions, darkness and bright light

01 Wednesday Apr 2009

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Death, Thoughts

when you spend extended hours in a hospital, your perspective on life really changes. it makes you wonder what really is important in life – and then, the moment you step into the blinding sunlight, the nitty-gritty of life catches up with you and before you know it, you are sucked deep into the black hole. that in itself is a contradiction because it implies that the grim reality of the hospital is better than the harsh reality of the outside world.

negativity is slimy and serpent-like – it crawls up on you when you least need it, and twists your mind out of rationality and sucks the life breath out of you. you thrash around inside your mind looking for a silver lining and all you can see is a deep black hole. after all, a hospital is grounded in reality. that nothing is permanent, things change, and that’s something you simply have to deal with.

after all, from the deepest darkest depths it can only get better, right? it is a reality check to remind you that sometimes the things you worry about and fear are not important, to not sweat the small stuff.

um, the darker the cloud, the brighter the lining…?

virtually veritas

20 Friday Mar 2009

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a wise lady named Rachna shared a bit of wisdom with me:

“Speak the truth,

But all that is true, need not be spoken.”

empathy pity and pithy witty – the interview question

13 Friday Mar 2009

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what does it take to successfully meet someone and in the space of a few minutes, understand where they are coming from and what makes them tick? who is to stop them from lying through their teeth? i think it is setting up a comfort level – also making them believe that you are a a non-threatening person to deal with. every time i have to do it, i always wonder what it is that makes someone willing to bare information about themselves and their life without giving it a second thought! When I had to switch sides and go to the other side of the table, I suddenly realised, it is just being yourself and if you speak from the heart, it is really tough to get it wrong. very importantly, you should be interviewing a person you are genuinely interested in knowing more about – otherwise it is a superficial q&a.

and it will always, always show when your interview lacks soul and depth. and the voice of the interviewer – how strong can it be? after all, you filter everything through your own consciousness and perceptions – how accurate are they? At the end of the day, reporting accurately is a misnomer – how can you report what is level one of chinese whispers? the correct interpretation of the question -> the correct interpretation of the answer -> the correct translation into words -> the judicious editing -> the correct interpretation by the reader. After so many filters, if the article still reads accurate, then it is actually a job well done.

if you overpower the interviewee and puts words in his/ her mouth, you are no better than a basic tabloid writer. when do you transition from journalist to writer? from empathy to wit and a modicum of charm, you are cajoling the best possible answers for the meatiest story. and twisted with veracity and smart writing. wow – who ever said it’s easy? and it doesn’t help when you are informed by the interviewee that ‘hey – its completely up to the interviewer to make it work, to create a great dialogue… no pressure, of course!’

when paths cross…

22 Sunday Feb 2009

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Entrepreneurship, Internet, Sahil Parikh, Thoughts

Life has a funny way of making things happen. Sometimes you don’t have to lift a finger and events roll out like a mossy stone!

So, Ed Iwata, a writer and blogger from the States popped into Bombay for a week to get an understanding of what’s happening in this mad, mad city. The city that has suddenly come into the limelight post-Slumdoggy Mil… Anyway, I begin to digress. He touched base with my husband to chat about what the entrepreneurship scene looks like, and about our ‘cross-cultural’ lives.

It has been interesting, India-America-India; also kinda cool, study-study-work-business-business and the inherent learning curve. We spoke about how it is a ‘get rich quick’ culture – no one really has the patience to work at making money; the kind that makes you feel good at the end of the day and sleep well at night. The kind that makes you feel complete. ‘I achieved something. And one day that will translate into material benefits, simply because it is the right thing.’

That discussion brings me to a persistent thought – when Sahil and I meet people my age, they don’t really care about doing the ‘right thing’ – they care about the end result, the monies and the more you reach out for it, the faster it runs away from you – the chase we politely term, ‘a rat race’. Maybe we are meeting the wrong people, but it does worry me, that in hindsight so many people my age will have spent the best years of their life chasing money and not building something, or creating a life for themselves. Money is ultimately delusional, simply because you need it, you believe that that’s all u need in life. Need is a necessity that you can fulfil through various means. When luxury becomes a need, the desperation follows. What I need is love, a few square meals on the table (preferably yummy tasting), exotic world travel and wonderful life experiences that I can write about. Money is simply the facilitator – it is the means to the end, not the end to the means. So, in retrospect, I did digress! Back to the point:

Ed, who is also being entrepreneurial, writing a book; tried in a short span to time to understand our culture, our thinking and our business. Fond of trying Indian food (he bravely experimented with chaat, dosa, and tons of masala stuff), he is very diligent about exploring the city and its nooks and crannies to find the watering holes in which the youth find space. He popped into all possible places and spoke to many people asking intuitive questions and following a trail.

Here’s what he wrote on us.

And something more picked up by the NYTimes.

I think its great that entrepreneurship is coming back into focus – and that is just a spirit. You can be entrepreneurial even within your own domain – home, office, work space, job, as a freelancer, and most importantly and challengingly, as an entrepreneurial businessman. It is the spirit that matters at the end of the day, and the dedication and drive. Money isn’t here and probably will not come for a long time, but at the end of the day, you fall back on your pillow, content that you have done what you were born to do.

soul for the soul

12 Thursday Feb 2009

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the only thing that people can’t take away from you – your spirit, your soul, is what matters. It lasts long beyond anything tangible. Whatever is tangible can and will one day dissappear.

and yet, people spend the least amount of time on their spirit and soul, and the most amount of time on the tangibles. the tangibles make them feel complete, and without a healthy helping of these tangibles, their spirit is broken. the soul takes a beating with every acquisiton.

that’s why so many people, even nations, lack soul.

what must one love – the book or the cover?

06 Friday Feb 2009

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Beauty, Death, Thoughts

I don’t mean to be morbid – but when I saw the fragile dead body, it really made me think. When life seeps out of the body, there is nothing left but a mass of biodegradable waste, and yet it is that biodegradable waste that we hanker for, love, hate and worship. As ‘beauty’ is sold as a concept, as a way of life, as a necessisity, we really wonder why we chase after something so ephemeral. Tons of times we are reminded that it is the inner beauty that one must look out for, but only until we see the decay of the outer self, that we realise the sheer truth of that statement. The outer blinds us, because it is simply more pleasing to see ‘pretty’ things.

When we form deep attachments to people, do we realise that we are not forming them to their body, which will fade; we are not forming to their heart, mind or personality, because that is an abstract concept that disappears the moment life remains no more; we are forming an attachment to things that will no longer exist – except in our memory. Is that why humans have a strange fondness for pictures and photos? The longing to preserve moments, time and people beyond their span of existence.

We can claim that we love the soul, the inexplicable part of a person that is entwined in karma and all things mysterious, but can we feel that soul, is it tactile enough for us to love it and miss it? We can spend our entire life loving things and people, and desperately trying to hold on to those we love, when all along, they are destined to disappear in a poof.

a site for sore eyes

16 Friday Jan 2009

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I’m a dinosaur that has been converted from a ‘website’ to a ‘blogsite’. I wonder how long I will desist from blogging – the thing I thought I could never do. I mean I write, I don’t exactly blog.

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