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Present Perfect

05 Wednesday Jan 2011

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Most of us spend our time waiting for exceptional moments to find us – whether it is in the act of doing nothing and whiling time away or in the the act of doing – staying busy for most part. We don’t make an effort to actually do something memorable or exceptional, we don’t look at moments in our day as those that define us. Taking pleasure in small things, may be considered being sentimental – but isn’t that what separates man from machine, man from animal? The fact that our brain is constantly connecting dots to emote, to create a myriad different emotions and feelings which lead to experiences and new thoughts and discoveries. As the days roll by, sometimes it helps to take a step back and discover the power of the present – the only way to move forward.

Decaffienated Koffee With Karan

22 Wednesday Dec 2010

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Bollywood, Karan Johar, kareenakapoor, Koffee With Karan, movies, priyankachopra, Ranbir Kapoor

After a long hiatus, Johar is back with season 3 of KWK, and despite being much awaited, it fails to satisfy. It is disappointing, just like his movies: dramatic without meat, one-sided and microcosmic. Where you look for incisive questions, probing analysis and incurable wit, you realize that the show now balances on Johar’s relationship with his guests – so he treads on eggshells, pleases them, praises them and it becomes a mutual back-scratching hour. The questions are boring, dull and jaded – do we really care how some actors rate other actors? Do we want to know about only 5 actors – the Khans and Akshay Kumar? With only the bitchiness or sharp wit, straight-faced untruths and simpering (respectively) of Kareena, Saif, Ranbir and Priyanka provide some entertainment or relief, the show falls completely flat for the same reasons his movies fail to excite: they remain relevant to an older time, they assume only 5 people of either sex exist in the industry or Karan’s world, the format hasn’t got updated with anything but blatant in-show marketing of advertisers and sponsors. Tsk, I’d rather watch KBC or Masterchef than my old favourite KWK. Koffee makes me yawn.

Sometimes, tomorrow isn’t another day.

04 Saturday Dec 2010

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Death, Thoughts

Somehow the wonder of a new life is deeply offset by the news of a sudden, unexpected, accidental death – of a person who has not yet lived his life in full, who has a long way of dynamism to go, who has shared his dreams, thoughts, ambitions with the world and is a book with many empty pages. I look at my newborn child next to me, with a world of dynamism lying ahead and I think about the acquaintance lost, he who had a world of dynamism still planned, unfulfilled lying ahead of him. He didn’t know the end was tomorrow – his last tweet was, ‘And tomorrow is another day…’ There is remorse in loss, there is relief that the loss is not your own, there is a hollow pang for those whose loss it is to bear, there is a fear of having to ever face such a loss, there is trepidation over how in the world his family would come to terms with this loss…. Death in it’s uncertain, unpredictable and ruthless form is a tough act to deal with – and as you walk through life, you realise that embracing life means accepting death.

Delivering on Expectations

03 Friday Dec 2010

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So, I just realised that my last post, about expectancy and waiting was written on the day I went into labour. Little did I know then, what to expect. It may sound cliched, but a saying posted on route to Bandra from SoBo: “A child gives birth to a mother” is actually so true. I may have given birth to a lovely little baby girl, but she has changed me from that moment on in ways I can’t describe. Never actually being heavy on the maternal gene-thing, there is sudden shift when you hold your own child in your arms, and feel her take a breath of air, open her eyes and try to focus at the world around. It should be an experience every woman should experience once. As you watch her form actions, movements and expressions, you find yourself and your husband reflected in her – she closes her eyes like him, she sleeps like him, she looks like me…. It is like a part of you has begun existing independently – and all the rigours of mothering a newborn seem immaterial in the face of such wonder. It takes nine months to create a baby, and nine seconds to create a mother. She takes bits and pieces of you and forms a personality and persona of her own. An entire person with a full life ahead of her.

 

Expectations of Expectancy

19 Friday Nov 2010

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Nine months later, it seems a distant memory finding out that you are pregnant – bringing in a child to this world. After all the range of emotions you go through – if you are not one of those girls-just-waiting-to-be-a-mom, you really do go through mental, physical and emotional upheavals. At no stage is it easy, but definitely there comes a time when you can actually feel a sudden shift and your mind says, admits – “it’s all worth it.” Suddenly priorities change, people around you change and your thinking changes. I’m guessing it’s a different experience for every expectant mother, but though I always believed I lacked a maternal gene, or thought I would never really get it, there came a time – surprisingly – when I did get it. I got how cool the whole deal is – building a little human, watching it grow – limbs, fingers, toes, organs, systems, spinal cord, brain, features… and to think your body is capable of doing all of that! While intellectually we know it, to actually feel it as a process is an entirely different feeling. When your baby starts moving inside, and you feel life forming, you want to hold onto that feeling. It’s surprising how quickly you get used to it all – carrying the baby, feeling the movements…it becomes something you often don’t even think about. One of nature’s most basic processes, and it is a marvel how efficiently the system works all on it’s own to get it all done. And then it all boils down to the last few weeks, days, hours, when you wait to actually meet the baby you’ve created face to face. There is impatience, there is trepidation, there is anxiety and there is a whole lot of excitement. And are there expectations? Possibly a lot – expectation that your child will be everything that you are dreaming it will, expectations of those around you. That’s a heavy load for a little tot! Possibly why I am not a fan of the term ‘expectant mom’ — it’s like you’re waiting to fulfill expectations. When you should be waiting to simply add a positive burst of energy into the world.

Socially Inept to Social King: Facebook, a result of Zuckerberg’s personality

07 Sunday Nov 2010

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There is an interesting connection between building a revolutionary, globally popular social networking site – even making the term ‘social network’ a huge catch phrase, when you are a socially inept person. Not that you don’t have social skills – that might be an overstatement from a person who doesn’t know Mark Zuckerberg at all, but based on the possibly opinionated and one-sided movie The Social Network (and the book Accidental Billionaries) – but rather, a person who never quite fits in. What is clear, from various popular accounts, including that of friends who have met him in person, is that he’s not exactly a people person. In much the tradition of geeks (Sean Parker being an exception?), Zuckerberg prefers his own company, intelligence, a computer and the company of like-minded others rather than mingle with regular civilians.

Whatever may be his motivation, what is hugely interesting is the irony in the situation that someone who isn’t at ease in the company of others, creates a space where people can easily form social connections. Or maybe there isn’t any irony there, it is merely an organic growth. When you realize that you may need a shield to stalk people, make friends and be a social voyeur, you realize that there is a very strong space to fill – a void in the lives of many people. How many people are cool? How many people actually fit in? Barely any. But there are millions others who are looking for a platform to interact, fit in and hang out. And a platform that doesn’t even require effort – just sit in your pajamas at home and do so.

Zuckerberg was filling a gap that was hugely missing from people’s lives, which would have arrived sooner or later on the Internet – it was just his time, place and ability to jump on the idea, recognizing it’s importance. While the Winklevoss twins may have understood the implication, they were still building something exclusive and ivy league – had they even managed to get the site going their way, they would never have had the vision of a socially inept person to make Facebook what it is, because they would probably have missed the point about what’s missing in everyone’s life, which Zuckerberg would inevitably keep stumbling upon, recognizing it from his own life. For instance, if someone came up to the Winklevosses and asked them about a girl in their class, they would respond naturally with an answer about the girl in their class, getting the scoop – they wouldn’t think about it the way Zuckerberg would – as a great way to have a ‘relationship status’ update online, because Zuckerberg wouldn’t be likely to be in on the relationships of people in his class, but with Facebook he – and others like him – could.

The ‘uncool’ Zuckerberg made the coolest thing to hit the Internet, making himself the ‘coolest’ person to know in the bargain. Whether things went down in the history of Facebook the way it is portrayed in the book/ film, and whether the people are as portrayed in the book/ film is left to be seen or speculated, but what remains true is that Facebook is what it is, because Zuckerberg is who he is.

There is no “I” in Teamwork…

25 Monday Oct 2010

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Chak De, Imran Khan, India, Interviews: Cinema, Politics, Raajneeti, Teamwork, Thoughts

It’s an observation I picked up from Twitter – that teamwork doesn’t have an “i”. And while that’s simple to understand, it means the making or breaking of a country. Sounds monumental? It is. Let’s start with what triggered this thought. Actor Imran Khan’s column in HT today (see excerpt below) on teamwork in movies and my catching Raajneeti on TV last night.

Imran Khan talks about how movies are made by teams, even if they are temporary, they are loyal:
“I wanted to talk about how we all come together for a few months, work till we fall down from exhaustion and then go our separate ways. You see, most people never realise just how much teamwork plays a part in what we do. An actor could be giving the performance of a lifetime, but if the cameraman doesn’t capture it correctly, nobody will ever see it. Each and every shot depends upon each and every person from each and every department doing exactly the right thing at exactly the right moment. It’s stressful and demanding… but it also creates a kind of bond that few other things can. For example, as I sit and write this, there is a game of cricket underway. The actors, director, ADs and light boys are all taking turns batting and bowling, and there is no hierarchy. Or, when we’ve been shooting for hours and it’s past lunch time, no one complains, because we’re all in it together. Nobody starts eating until everyone has broken for lunch.

The fate of a film can never be predicted; it may do well, it may disappear without a trace. I’ve seen both happen. But that can’t change the way we approach our work. We still have to give it everything we have, and we still have to come together and work as a team. And that’s reflected in the term for an entire cast and crew of a film; it’s called a unit.” (Full column here.)

On the other hand, there is politics, where there are teams and more teams and even more teams that spend their time bickering, playing games, manipulating and buying each other out. While some people thought Raajneeti was a bit extreme, I find it quite a relevant movie of the time – where politics today is not what the Greeks intended it to be when they coined the term.

Ref: Wikipedia: “Politics (from Greek πολιτικος, [politikós]: «citizen», «civilian»), is a process by which groups of people make collective decisions. The term is generally applied to behavior within civil governments, but politics has been observed in other group interactions, including corporate, academic, and religious institutions. It consists of ‘social relations involving authority or power’ and refers to the regulation of a political unit, and to the methods and tactics used to formulate and apply policy.”

What is the problem with our country, or many other countries today? Is it really what we learnt in civics and political science and sociology, the things we rattle off, the terms that NRIs sit back in their la-z-boys and shake their heads over while munching betel nuts? Corruption, over-population, illiteracy…these are the buzz words. Yes, these problem exist, and yes, there are important issues that need to be solved for our country to move forward. But is this the real problem at the very foundation of our issues? I think not, I think it is a genuine lack of team spirit. We don’t think like one nation, one people. Whether it is because of religion, caste, money, social structure or an age-old belief in hierarchy…or even just survival of the fittest (because we’ve had to survive to make it here – fight to get anywhere), it has made us individualistic. At the very most, we may include our family in our concerns, but that is also getting few and far between and we find ourselves largely driven by selfish concerns. Some of our wealthiest people do not contribute to charity, rather build towering monuments to denote their status. Recently, while visiting the Jai Vakeel school for the mentally challenged, I learned that the government hasn’t paid salaries there in four months. So even when something good is being done, they can’t simply cough up the change to keep it going, but they can pocket the change from CWG and other big projects. While lining one’s pockets, can’t one at the very least ensure that some good comes of some of the tax payers’ money?

Another quote popularised on Twitter, “Indians are privately smart and publicly dumb” – is exactly the same thing, we don’t believe in treating our country like our own. The streets are not ours, we can trash them. The public loos are not in our house, we can leave them filthy. The movie theatre isn’t our own, we can mess it up with food and drink. Publicly, we notoriously behave like pigs in a pigsty, and yet, we follow stringent hygiene and cleaning rules in our homes – remove your shoes before coming in, they will track germs from the outside in! Is it that we believe that someone else will take care of our mess? Is it simply because we don’t care enough about anyone else that it doesn’t matter?

The reason we admire sports so much is that as humans we crave bonding and togetherness – and there are very few places that show mutual respect and warmth for other humans than in teams that come together for a common cause. I admire the film industry – despite their bickering and issues and camps, a group of people come together and work hard to make a film – even if they never see each other again once it’s complete, they gave it their unselfish best when required. In fact, the movie Chak De is a metaphor for Indian society – we are too mentally segregated to think like one, and when we do, we can possibly reach heights we have never considered possible.

Why can’t we as social citizens do that? Why must we treat other people as “others” and not a part of our own team, own country, own race? Why can’t we think like “we” rather than “I”? If we were to, everything would be very different. A simple shift in perspective would make a huge difference in thought and a huge difference in where we are as a race or nation.

Short-sightedness – where we can’t see beyond our own noses and houses, is what makes us an ultimately selfish race. And this is the root of the trouble – global warming, social evils, unhappiness all boils down to being able to think as a bigger identity than oneself. Can we be bigger than we think we want to be?

 

Bollywood Six: The women who set the screen on fire

21 Thursday Oct 2010

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Top Hindi cinema actresses today: ranked according to their acting and power quotient

1. Aishwarya Rai Bachchan: Star Performer

She has immense star power. From an intensely wooden actress-cum-model to one of the most powerful actresses in Indian cinema today, she has come a long way. I believe Sanjay Leela Bhansali is responsible for turning her into a versatile performer. Post Hum Dil De Chuke Sanam, she metamorphed into an actress with considerable histrionic power, only one which she needed to tune and control – she was prone to overacting at the time. After her Bengali cinema and Raincoat phase, she became a much more controlled performer – think Jodhaa Akbar. Besides being absolutely stunning to look at, she remains hugely iconic as a searing beauty and talented actress. She is very promising in the slew of movies lined up 2010: Robot, Action Replayy, Guzaarish…. She is both, star and actor. Which is why she still tops the list, despite being much older than most of the newer lot below.

2. Priyanka Chopra: All Rounder

She ranks in my list above Kareena Kapoor, despite the latter’s longevity in the industry, simply because Priyanka makes less mistakes and isn’t prone to overacting. Priyanka is a far more controlled performer, and a very balanced actress in terms of looks, charisma, versatility and acting. She is more an actor than a star, which in my books means a lot more than the other way around. She doesn’t have the raw talent of a Rekha, Madhuri or Vidya Balan, but she has a winning combination – versatility (proved with her movies ranging from Kaminey, Aitraaz, Dostana, Fashion to Anjaana Anjaani), a breadth of expressions and emotions, which prevents her from getting monotonous on screen, great vivacity – which makes her a hugely watchable actress – she suffuses the screen with her presence and a very earthy appeal. When styled well, she looks great too. Obviously she is a hard worker and a quick learner, becuase she is extending her range as she goes along, proving her mettle in the talent game. I believe we have great things to see from her, yet.

3. Kareena Kapoor: Drama Queen

Histrionics, over-acting, over-dramatization. These are, what according to me, hold Kareena back from being a fabulous actress. She has immense talent, and with the right director (think Imtiaz Ali for Jab We Met, Santosh Sivan for Asoka, Sudhir Misra for Chameli and Vishal Bharadwaj for Omkara) she turns into a powerhouse performer with controlled histrionics, without the annoying traces of Kareenaism. Kareenaism is fun to watch as long as it is in the limited avatar of Poo (Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gham) or as the character of Geet (Jab We Met), but really not all the time. She brings a certain vivacity to the role, but more often than not, she remains more Kareena than the character (which is what Shah Rukh is also prone to do), making it wonderful for her fans, but not appealing to those who want to watch the movie and character unfold.

4. Deepika Padukone: Growing Stunner

Her smile (which reaches her eyes) and her dimples simply distract you through the film enough that you don’t really care that she isn’t doing much. That was Deepika Padukone in her first film, Om Shanti Om. Ever since then (despite making some terrible choices like Housefull and Chandni Chowk to China), she has worked to prove herself. She improves with every film she makes. There was not much difference in her roles in Bachna Ae Haseeno (where she delivered stilted dialogue) and Love Aaj Kal (where her dialogue delivery improved, but her character remained dull – due to the requirement of the script). In Karthik Calling Karthik, she began to open up with some of her old vivacity, and has really come into her own with Lafange Parindey. She is a fabulous clothes horse, great to look at, and an obviously hard worker and learner, but I do hope she doesn’t slide downhill with what appears to be limited expressions and a dose of overacting visible in the promos of Break Ke Baad, while Khelen Hum Jee Jan Se appears to be a promising role that would show off more of her newly-honed talent.

5. Vidya Balan: Talent Unlimited

What’s stopping this hugely talented – one of the most talented actresses we have today – actor from swinging it into the big league and top of the list is the lack of star power. She is an excellent actress and performer, but it looks like she will go the route of Tabu – critical acclaim, more art house than mainstream. She is wasted in candy-floss movies, and unfortunately candy floss is what builds mainstream appeal.

5. Katrina Kaif: Screen Diva

Katrina is hugely watchable – a great looker on screen, and that’s about it. But simply because she is so watchable, despite not being able to really act much (I only liked her in New York), she tries pretty hard and she’s won the audiences over in terms of screen presence.

Vidya Balan and Katrina Kaif share the #5 spot for diametrically opposite reasons.

6. Sonam Kapoor: Maturing Slowly

Sonam is pretty and lively. She fits the bill of an Aisha perfectly, she was great as Bittu in the horrendous Delhi 6 (possibly the only good thing about that film besides its songs) and she was watchable in I Hate Luv Storys, because Imran and she look so good together. However, she has limited expressions, which became very obvious in Aisha, because she faced so much screen time, and she needs to work on her breadth of expressions and quality of acting, otherwise she would remain typecast in the pretty-girl-next-door genre. And of course, a huge plus that she has unbelievable style. She can carry off a coarse jute bag and make it look stylish.

What’s Wrong With Anjaana Anjaani?

21 Thursday Oct 2010

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I had great expectations from Anjaana Anjaani – based on the phenomenal music and energy during the promos and videos. With the reviews sounding disappointing, I still went to watch it out of sheer curiosity and I came back wondering what it is that Indian film audiences want in a movie. Agreed, the premise of the movie was about suicide, but there are hardly any dark elements in the film, except for when PC actually tries to kill herself, and is nearly successful. The film technically is slick – good camera work, nice styling and locales, power-packed performance from Priyanka Chopra (PC) and a very credible performance from Ranbir Kapoor, who one has to admit, can definitely act. He lived the role, though possibly with less zest than PC simply because of the nature of their onscreen characters. The dialogues are good for most part, some even quite crisp, and the story at least has a different premise, which is more than what we can say for the other generic love stories being made lately. In fact, it’s grim premise has genuine resonance with a contemporary youth – they tend to go into depths over love or money, and finding meaning in their lives becomes a lost cause. And finding that meaning when living out what they believe are their last days, with the person they least expect to, is existential in it’s execution. Were this to have been a Hollywood film, the same multiplex audience would have probably accepted it as a different kind of chick-flick and watched it. In Indian cinema, it is rejected in concept. There were parts that were slow and dragged, but that can be expected from any film. Overall though, I thought it worked – more than many of the big-banner love stories of this year – and yet it fared under expectations. I’m truly at a loss to figure out what it is that people found lacking in the film, especially when people go to watch movies like Housefull and Golmaal etc. I believe the Indian audiences demand sheer drama in romance, or mindless humour. Actually, it still remains a mystery to see why certain films work and others don’t. I’m curious to see the fate of Jhootha Hi Sahi – Abbas Tyrewala’s next, after Jaane Tu…Ya Jaane Na, which I felt was a small big film. A simple premise, filled with so much promise and character. Easily a film watchable multiple times, particularly because of the freshness of the casting and the sharp editing. Does Abbas manage it again, without Aamir?

All for love? Once Upon A Time In Mumbai

24 Friday Sep 2010

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Another mafia film…and we’ve all seen, liked and re-watched Satya, Company etc. But OUATIM has something different going on – while all the regular elements of the underworld and the dark alleys and gritty lives comes to the fore amid the sophistication of money and power, while the male protagonists Ajay Devgn (Sultan Mirza) and Emraan Hashmi (Shoaib Khan) play their roles well portraying the different facets of the dons: one who plays a kind of robinhood – is a smuggler with ethics – he won’t ‘dirty’ his city Mumbai and forges a tenuous partnership with the rest of the gangs in the city. He’s the likable anti-hero; while Khan is out and out a bad cookie. He only craves power, money and is willing to go as far as possible for it.

While their contrasting characters are at a very basic level, easily understandable, what is more interesting though, are the love stories running through the film. Why do the two very attractive women love these men? Kangna Ranaut plays a movie star (Rehana) who falls for Mirza’s persistent charms…in a way one can see the attraction. She is looking for someone to sweep her off her feet, and the men she meets in the film industry are slimy creatures who stake claim without any pretences of love or affection. Mirza on the other hand, truly loves and cherishes her. His love for his city, for his woman are all pure and devoid of the drama that controls his professional life. Khan’s relationship is a lot more complicated: why would a simple girl like Prachi Desai (Mumtaz) stick around with a hooligan like Khan, when she knows – but remains in denial – about his no-good behaviour?

Maybe Rehana has seen the purity of Mirza’s soul and fallen in love with that; what has Mumtaz seen in Khan? Is it the living-on-the-edge kind of romance that works for her, the attraction to the bad boy – eventually one who cheats on her despite his assurances of love, or the desire to make him a better person than he himself would want to be? Did she expect anything else? In her attempts to remain pure against his immortality, she constantly gives way to him and his desires…there is not much of a fight. Despite being gifted a stolen necklace, she is back with him – is it fear of the consequences, or love?

While we saw how it ended for the men, it would have been nice to know what happened to the women who loved these men unconditionally.

 

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