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Karthik calling Krishna

05 Friday Mar 2010

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Bollywood, indiancinema, Ishqiya, Reviews, Thoughts

I don’t know if I am old-fashioned about mystery, or a Sherlock-cum-Agatha stalwart, but I prefer clues to be unobtrusive and to keep me guessing. I would rather not know or not expect it to be the person it is, bec of the way the story is told, unfolds and the way the characters are portrayed. Two films that had the potential to be brilliantly mysterious, let me down in that sole respect because we could guess all along that something was rather off with that person: Ishqiya and Karthik Calling Karthik. While each had a trump-card surprise element: a not-so-dead husband; and a phone with unexpected features (which we couldn’t guess through the course of the film, despite the pointers) the two lead characters, Krishna and Karthik respectively, both hinted at something being unnatural about themselves. Karthik was already visiting a shrink and his state of life would logically be bringing his mind to despair; Krishna’s expressions and body language all along suggested that there was something up with her – that she was not all that she seemed to be. So then, if the who was nearly identified, the how and what remained to be discovered. While the latter was executed well, taking the ‘who’ away takes away more than half the fun of a mystery. Understanding what makes people tick is the most interesting quality of a true mystery writer. And giving away the culprit or making the culprit obvious leaves the movie less nuanced and subtle than it should ideally be! Writers Abhishek Chaubey and Vijay Lalwani, in a commendable first effort, have both made the same error in characterization and script-writing. I only hope they keep us guessing a lot more in the future! Sent on my BlackBerry® from Vodafone Essar

Cinema in Transition – Dinosaurs in the Park

27 Saturday Feb 2010

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Bollywood, indiancinema, Karan Johar, My Name Is Khan, Reviews, Thoughts

I told myself that another review would be pointless, especially after I’d seen the movie so late. After all, I’m not surprised that I am disappointed with the film. Inauthenticity (especially to the syndrome), over-the-top performances, over-dramatization, continuity errors and inconsistency are all a part of this so-called “Bollywood cinema” that we make exceptions for. We make those exceptions because they entertain us, because they star the larger-than-life actors and because they work so marvelously with cinematography, locations and dream-scapes, that we succumb to them. All along understanding that nothing can be 100%, nothing can be perfect. Nothing that is real will translate well on screen and will make us feel good about ourselves, or send us back truly entertained. That’s because ‘realistic’ cinema at a point of time was grimy, gritty and dark. Barjatya, Johar and others of their ilk brought a slice-of-life drama from an ordinary life and made it extraordinary with heightened emotions and colourful scapes. And there was a time when this really worked. I’ve seen Hum Aapke Hain Kaun, Dilwale Dulhaniya…, Kuch Kuch Hota Hai etc an umpteen number of times. Barjatya slowly realised that his kind of cinema had become a dinosaur – it was too sweet to digest, and in its inherent unreality (there may be very few families actually like the ones he portrayed), in his inherent moralising and ethical trip, he was alienating an audience that once loved him. That’s because too much of a good thing can be bad, especially if your pulse remains on what you want to say, and not on what your audience wants to hear. Karan Johar brought a younger sensibility to Barjatya’s cinema – a youthful exuberance, the pain of love all candy-flossed into “happy times”. And he succeeded – his movies evolving with his own evolving thoughts and sensibilities, and his courage to be bolder with his themes on screen. But while his themes are generally relevant to the time and often have an important message to deliver, his films are still packaged in unreality.

 

But Johar remained true to what he wanted to say – that one man can be larger than life. And that man, for most part was Shah Rukh Khan. What  makes it difficult, is that Shah Rukh, himself, is larger-than-life as a person and an actor. When he begins to play a character that demands that, he cannot – shouldn’t – act it out – he’s being himself, with some character trait variations. And if he tries to act in these situations, which he often does, he tends to go over-the-top. Both Johar and Khan then fall prey to insulting the intelligence of the audience who have now been trained to understand and accept subtle nuances and acting. Can you identify with Khan? Or do you watch him because after all these years, Shah Rukh remains emminently watchable? Does the character come alive, or does one recall Shah Rukh as Rizwan Khan? The correct role for Shah Rukh is that of underplayed emotions – that in Swades and Chak De: the kind that make you wonder what he’s thinking, that make you stretch your mind to understand him; not one that is blatant and obvious. Om Shanti Om was a travesty (albeit a successful one), and unfortunately Shah Rukh associates himself with the kind of cinema that leaves his potential unexplored.

 

Farhan Akhtar changed everything. I would blame him for the fall of unreality and the rise of realistic candyfloss. The moment Dil Chahta Hai hit the screens – a film still considered seminal in many ways – he changed the notion of what people expected from Hindi cinema. He gave them real life, real dialogues, real people, real emotions, real insecurities, actual incidents picked up from real life and then blended with just enough glamour and colour to become believable and likeable all at the same time. He still admits using everyday dialogues, often arguing with lyricist-father Javed Akhtar over using everyday language in his works. Akhtar just realised that it is important to connect with the film, and the youth that he represented would expect this, having been exposed to international (not just hollywood) cinema that creates easily-identifiable characters. Maybe that’s why he wanted to recreate Don for today, and maybe that’s why that is one of his most melodramatic films to date. In much the same manner, Imtiaz Ali brought a freshness to the characters and dialogues, because he picked them up from real life. Jab We Met was not larger-than-life – it was life-sized. Zoya Akhtar exorcised a ghost with her first film – the desire to spoof this very sort of over-the-top Bollywood and its myriad idiosyncrasies. Dibakar Banerjee, Vishal Bharadwaj, Anurag Kashyap, Abhishek Kapoor, Shimit Amin, Ayan Mukherjee… are all the new breed: they pick up real life and make it real on screen, even if with their own brand of cinematic overtures. Maybe, that’s why an older audience still remains faithful to ‘Bollywood’ cinema, and in the younger audience lies the huge fan-following of this new breed of cinema-makers.

 

After all, if you want to make epics, you do it with epic characters like the way Ashutosh Gowarikar would, or in some ways Sanjay Bhansali would; not making real people epic-sized. Even when Bhansali tried to make real people larger-than-life, it didn’t work. The audience must be given some credit – they don’t need things hammered into their head, they do generally, get it; and they don’t identify with emotions worn on the sleeve at all times. While Johar’s themes work, messages are important and cinema continues to have an audience; if he chooses to have critical acclaim rather than the loyal-popular vote and choose not to go the way of Barjatya, he must reinvent his own cinema, tone down his own emotions and learn the art of underplaying with subtlety, rather than overplaying with blatancy.

To Read or To Buy?

25 Thursday Feb 2010

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Books, Indian Fiction, Literature, Thoughts

Today, I took a turn about the Strand Book Fair at Bajaj Hall, Nariman Point. There was a time, back during my college days, when I would count the days until the book fair and saved up pocket money for my No. 1 indulgence. There were some amazing deals back in the day – books piled upon books, some obscure titles, all at throw-away prices. It was fun rummaging through them and collecting a whole bunch of treasures. Today (and it has been the case recently) seeing that pitiful selection of books lined up on tables spine up, face down, sorted according to a rather unintelligible system, it made me feel sad. I felt a compulsion to buy – just coz I was there, I even picked a couple of titles up, but then put them down again. Ironically, I can indulge myself now, but the temptation is much lower. Either I have lost the maniacal desire to own that a literature student always has, or the fair was just plain boring. I’d rather go with the latter – a sign that kindles are winning over books. A shoe sale will have hordes of women pushing and shoving in an unlady-like fashion to get to that perfect stiletto. Even the plant and bonsai garden sale on Marine Drive garners more attention than the once-popular Strand Book Fair.
And it’s not just that the prices are not really tempting – it’s a bit of a sham. The discounts on the books are what is regularly offered by them in their store and by others for regular buyers. The ones with the mega deals are hardly visible. The hall looks dull and lifeless, like the line of titles not even bothering to vie for attention. Books have NEVER made me feel so dismal as the book fair has today.

 

We were recently was discussing how Danai in Bandra has a certain old
book store charm and character and how big chain stores lack that
feeling. I go to Crossowrds to grab a coffee and maybe a book. I would
go to Danai to find the book that I can’t elsewhere. Also, it is
amazing how those who run a book store have no idea where their books
are. Oxford, case in point, at Churchgate. Their staff is clueless
about the books. A big book store is just that – a shop with books. A
book shop should have real charm and character, where you can chat
with the staff knowledgebly, the owner will participate because
reading and knowledge shouldn’t be commercialised. I guess that’s what
the movie You’ve Got Mail was about. It’s happening here now, and
there’s nothing we can do to stop the art of reading becoming the
front of the salesman.

one breeds familiarity, two breeds contempt

22 Monday Feb 2010

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when you meet someone for the first time, your instincts are very strong – the radar is on high and if you are an intuitive person, the signals you pick up (also depending on how straight-forward or how duplicit the person you are meeting is) are often dead-on. You tend to pay greater attention to the body language and signals that emanate from strangers. When you meet a person for the second or third time, both your and their guards are down. Neither is paying that much attention to the signals, rather you tend to concentrate on the conversation and taking ideas forward – similarities and differences. In that relaxed state of mind, you miss much that should be noted, because you no longer think it is necessary to pay attention. the comfort level acts like a red herring. eventually, your senses are getting deader with repeated meetings, since the relevance of subtle hints is not longer important. You are getting distracted by the free flow of words and conversation. And for intuitive understanding of the other person’s personality, words are just noise. Ironically, one must consider judging a book by it’s first reading and a person by your first impression.

Secret fears and mental parasites

22 Monday Feb 2010

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In life what holds us back is fear. It’s not always a I’m-scared-of-ghosts-and-stalkers kind of fear, but fear of learned anxieties. My recent fear has been the fear of wanting something I shouldn’t have – for the sheer, violent reaction I get around it. Acquired through an intolerance to a commonly consumed food item. All along I’ve told myself that there is light at the end of the tunnel – one day, I will overcome the problem (coz everything that comes must eventually go) and to do that, I will overcome my fear of discovering whether the problem continues to exist or not. As I watch others enjoying what is a normal right for them, I train my mind to accept that their reality is no longer mine. What exists for them, has ceased to exist (temporarily) for me. And now, when the time comes for me to try it again, to see whether I am still allergic to it, I am afraid. The memories of the reaction still strong in my mind, the sheer pain of experience still vivid, I can’t bring myself to try the very thing that I yearned towards. A phobia – acquired through a Pavlovian learning, if you must. I feel like a child again. I now start with baby steps. Trying one morsel to see where it will lead. The first bite that should have been deeply satisfying, exciting, even liberating, is a morbidly fearful one. Fear is a mental parasite.

Political Balance Sheets and Media Glory

15 Monday Feb 2010

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When we consider how ineffectual our political system and our elected representatives are, we often wonder what we can do to make them accountable or care. Obviously, seeing the recent barrage of films and reportage, we believe that the media is responsible to a very large extent in the lack of accountability. In much the manner that in a democratic set-up we elect representatives, we also ‘elect’ our media to play an important role in defining our thoughts, opinions and in ensuring that we remain protected and taken care of at all times. The easiest way for the media to do this is through responsible journalism – by not distorting the news, not grabbing eyeballs just for TRPs, not sensationalising but simply stating facts and pointing out areas that have gone awry. So, very simply, if the political dailies were to – every week or fortnight or month – run an impartial page on a political ‘balance sheet’ – a report on what promises were made at the time of contesting an election, and what the current standing is for all our elected reps., where the problems have occured and what is expected now…. This can’t be an occasional expose that happens in India Today or TOI etc, but rather, a regular accountability system that keeps the people abreast and the reps on their toes. So, you can’t fake it, you gotta do it and then find yourself written about and held accountable. This would keep the political media busy enough that they don’t need to create drama and fanfare over trivial issues, and political debates that lead nowhere, but rather an administrative system of checks that we can refer to at the time of elections.

my success your failure

23 Saturday Jan 2010

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Entrepreneurship, Success, Thoughts

It’s true when people suggest that in times of strain, one can judge how the people around you think. It’s also true that people like to align themselves with success and steer clear of what they consider ‘failure’. These are such relative and useless words, and we chose to bring our children up with these terms.

In the magazine industry, we have readers who want to read about the ’successful’ stars, the advertisers who want to associate themselves with the ’successful’ people. And the definition of success is so arbitrary that it is shocking. Why don’t we want to hear about talented people who didn’t make it? Who struggled and probably have an interesting story to tell? Because all our dreams are aspirational – what we sell to people is all that is good and ’successful’ because we are selling winning formulas.

Isn’t success getting up every morning and trying to do what you love, and doing it again even if you failed at it? Isn’t success just doing what you love and failing as opposed to succeeding in doing what you hate? Isn’t success passion and drive and vision and faith? Isn’t success more than winning and losing? Isn’t success more than being No. 1? Isn’t success simply not thinking about failure? Isn’t success being a good person? Isn’t success just being who you want to be?

Why is success evaluated on a tangible material quotient? Why is success evaluated at all? Why should I judge someone else’s success-quotient? Isn’t it easier to take joy in what you do, without judging – yourself or anyone else? Isn’t it a easier simpler life?

the power to be who you want to be

23 Saturday Jan 2010

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Entrepreneurship, Sahil Parikh, Success, Thoughts

Somewhere along the way, we have lost our identity, our individuality. we have lost a sense of whom we want to be or what drives us. because we are so scared of – what others will think about us, whether we will live up to others’ expectations, whether we will be able to fulfil our own and others’ dreams with that vision, with the fear of failing, with the fear of not being secure.

Three things led to the creation of this blog post – reviews of the Three Idiots movie, Robert Kiyosaki’s latest Be Rich & Happy, and my entrepreneur-husband Sahil.

It started with the 3i movie… i kept reading reviews tweeted by people about how the movie is brilliant, about how chetan bhagat has been wronged, about how the movie sucks because it sells dreams not reality, about how chatur is the real hero, and we shouldn’t laugh at him, because we are laughing at ourselves, we are all Chaturs. And in there lies the flaw and the brilliance of the movie. This is where 3i is bigger and more meaningful than Bhagat’s story can ever be. It is the triumph of vision, of course, but over that it is the triumph of the makers in bringing us in uncomfortable touch with the Chaturs in ourselves. However much of a dreamer, a visionary and a non-comformist you are, there is a Chatur in you and a Chatur in the people around you, who pull you down, who want you to to conform. As someone rightly points out, 1 visionary needs a 100 Chaturs to do the hard work. Agreed. But that doesn’t mean you don’t give people the chance to dream big, to be their own visionary. Just because we want those 100 Chaturs doesn’t mean we selfishly take away the power to make them understand what they are missing if they remain Chatur.

The next point is that Chatur is successful in his own way – he did make it. Yes, but he achieved the obvious, materialistic and conformist road to success – the kind that makes us selfish, capitalistic and greedy individuals, who cannot appreciate thinkers and visionaries, who evaluate success in terms of net worth. There is nothing wrong with being Chatur – we are not ones to decide which path is right and wrong. What we do know is that we need to keep the passion and fire alive and burning, we need to accept that if we have a greater calling, we may need to chose to not conform to societal norms. We need to accept those who are trying to do something different, because there is no right and wrong path, and nothing can be evaluated on the basis of a paycheck. If you have the right values, the right belief and the passion, success WILL find you. You don’t need to chase it. You just need a little faith. In yourself. The kind that Rancho was trying to get us to have.

Robert Kiyosaki of the Rich Dad Poor Dad fame, in his own capitalist way, tries to get the Chaturs to not conform and not live life based on that mindless paycheck. That has what has killed the US economy and it will kill Asia too, if we forget what’s important. Invest in yourself (in your vision) and if you have the right beliefs, with the right ideas and you will be rich and happy. It’s too simplistic in its current form, but the bottomline works – you need to steer clear of the rat race to build something big, to dream big. It questions the conventional notions of ’security’ of the parrot people who live on the rat tracks.

Sahil, my entrepreneur-husband, has done the job-route. He knew he would not be happy until he followed his dream to own his own company. He’s living his dream. But his friends, in cushy jobs and family businesses are obviously more ‘settled’ than he is. He is still in startup stage. Long hours, managing his own team…it’s a quiet pressure that comes along with being a risk-taker, along with following your dream. There are those who admire him for taking the tougher route. There are others who suggest that he should quit while he is ahead and find something ’safe’ where he can manage his life with a steady income. Who’s the correct one here? The most interesting example is that of an entrepreneurial family friend, who suggests that maybe Sahil should consider alternate forms of income because at this stage he should be ‘settled’. He points out that his own son, has a great cushy job, a 401k and a nice nest egg already – that is the right path. It is a great path for some. Not for those who think about building something bigger than they are, something that will live on when they are no longer there, for those who have a vision and just need the strength and the patience to see it through, and the courage to accept failure and the renewed vision to start again, if required.

I’ve noticed that there will be many who will question you in life, who will judge you and who will think they have a better solution for being you than you do. If they are not you, they cannot be you. Only you have the power to be you. The problem arises when you think or give others the power of attorney to your life and mind. That is scary. It is as if you have allowed society and others who don’t understand your vision to enter your mind and heart and take over. The proverbial serpent will twist you into such a frenzy that you stop thinking clearly, you lose focus of your vision.

It is important to realise that there is no formula in life. What works for someone – it’s great, I’m happy for you – but it may not work for me/you. It may not make me happy. And at the end of the day, I have to live with myself, sleep with my thoughts, and walk in my own shoes, not yours.

survival of the tastiest

27 Sunday Dec 2009

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i have yet to understand meat-eating pet-lovers. i haven’t really reconciled to meat eaters to start with, but what’s the scene with non-vegetarians loving their pets? they bathe them and care for them as if they are their own kids, even more than their kids. americans may forgo a meal to go that extra mile for their pet. but they wont forgo meat on their table. while food choices are up to the individual, i find it painful that people with the power of greater understanding and empathy, who don’t do things merely for survival, would willingly choose to cause so much pain to another living thing simply to satisfy their taste buds. the way animals are farmed, the way they are created and tortured, it would make anyone shudder with repulsion. but when the meat it tasty, who cares about how it was created, right? Jonathan Safran Foer’s Eating Meat raises pertinent questions…and the New Yorker has done a good job of presenting the case for the book. http://3.ly/meat

While I know not everyone can become a vegetarian or vegan, it helps if people think twice about cruelty to all animals, not just their household pet.

While cosmetic testing on animals is banned, and Legally Blonde 2 presented one helluva case, what about the billions of animals that are tortured and dying every day to make for an appetising entree? Cruelty takes place in many ways, and its important to start looking at the mass killing that you might be perpetuating, while ignorantly giving your pet a bath with scented oil.

And if you must eat meat, why not your pet? Its easier to kill and eat a stranger, is that it? So should mass homicide be pardoned, if a person is very loving to his/her immediate family?

death comes in threes, with an unexpected act of kindness

23 Wednesday Dec 2009

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from the time someone told me that death comes in threes, the morbid part of my mind began watching out for it. one down, two to go etc. i mean not that i wanted it, more like fearful anticipation. the theory hasn’t failed me so far. its been a few years.

today, however i realised that i havent been looking for the unexpected, only for the fearfully expected. every time something darkens your universe, something or someone comes along to brighten it. it can be a smile, a caring hug, a few kind words, but they mean more than they would on a normal given day. especially if they come from unexpected sources. and sometimes, your personal and professional life collide to the extent that someone from your work existence gets a chance to give you solace or be there for you when you least expect it.

it’s important to remember that kindness/ empathy doesn’t come easy – humans seem to have dropped that natural ability to care for someone outside their direct influence…possibly around the time selfishness became the mantra for survival. in all my times of grief, i thank the people who showed up for me, and hope i can do the same sometime, somewhere.

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